The book advises her to go to someone good at portraiture, give a description, iterate on a few sketches, and have an image to contemplate so you don't wind up realizing that actually that combination of individually attractive features isn't nice all together, or something. It recommends taking lots of time, and writing down everything that comes to mind about how she'd like her helpmate to be, and pretending she has ALREADY MADE this person JUST AROUND THE CORNER and seeing if she has a last minute panic over forgetting to include something. It reminds her that people drift over time, but they especially do so if their initial specifications are not very well thought out, or are in tension with each other - it's hard to make someone both very tidy and completely unbothered by you being a slob and also have that person eager to do lots of things besides clean up after you which would compete with that for time, because inevitably they're going to have the thought "I'd have more time to paint if you weren't leaving your dishes everywhere" or "I guess you can't reasonably complain if I don't do the dishes either, it isn't like you do them", so you should pick at most two of those traits. Here is a list of disabilities that you should have in mind to not include because if you don't have that in mind they may be filled in at random; any space you don't specify will be filled in at random.
People liking singing and sex is technically optional but they are both free ways to pass the time so probably unless for some reason you can't abide them yourself you will want them included (though if you're part of a long line of people denied these harmless amusements you could take the opportunity to break the cycle). This, like all other things you mean them to spend their time on, you will want to trouble to make them good at. It is easier to make someone good at something if you understand how the skill works. You don't have to be good at it, but you should be able to distinguish good and bad results and have an idea of how you'd learn it if you were going to. Languages are pretty easy to add but if you're not making your person very smart they will soon get rusty at ones they don't use.
Your person will not by default start with fake memories - this is understood to be correct, it's bad to be delusional - but will also not by default start with any particular opinions about the situation they are in, or you, or being naked, and if you let those fill in at random you are likely to get "startled, embarrassed, possibly resentful", and you probably instead want "calm, delighted to meet you, kind of turned on" or something like that. You cannot copy a personality outright by reference to a person; you have to actually describe the personality, in your mind or on paper, and if you are wrong about exactly what traits underly what you like about yourself or whoever else you feel moved to copy, it won't turn out how you hope. You can sort of mentally prioritize, so if you think that your preexisting friend is polite because they care about people and actually they are polite because they fall back on having predetermined scripts for how to behave, you can kind of try harder on "polite" than on "cares about people" and get "polite" with a random but consonant-with-the-rest-of-the-personality-selectors underlying reason. Or the other way around, and possibly get someone brusque and awkward but caring.
There's an entire chapter about sexual compatibility and making sure your person isn't jealous of whoever else you're sleeping with. There's a bit about having compatible aesthetic tastes, which assumes you're going to be singing duets all day, and about how to make sure they have the repertoire you have in mind. There is a section on how much you can given current understandings successfully max out various desirable traits ranging from general strength and stamina (this doesn't seem to exceed what you'd expect from a swordfighter type of the caliber palling around with third- or fourth-level casters, though it does outdo random Golarion peasants) to how little sleep they need (this book pegs it at four hours; some people can manage on less but this must rely on some other factor that isn't yet understood).