Then you have a limited imagination, or else it's another species difference. I would find politics very boring if everyone just communicated directly their current opinion of everyone else and then picked their shared goals and negotiated on the other ones. I'd change to a world where that happened, of course, because the point of politics is not my entertainment, but I would lose my principle source of something that I very much enjoy. And sex, unlike politics, only affects the involved parties, making it much more ethical to make it an elaborate power game! Or at least so I naively thought back before the war started.
Little bit, maybe, although I can't guess exactly how unless for some reason you want to go into elaborate detail that isn't my business.
My eidetic memory's not quite that good for anything that's not about physics - it's all right for books I remembered reasonably clearly or read more than once to start, although I'm sure there are discrepancies, but I didn't read anything called The Nice Sexually Liberal Galactic's Guide To Sexual Ethics, it's dribs and drabs from stuff I skimmed.
Not as far as I know, just a mistake to set her up with guys her father disapproves of.
I don't know! It's hundreds of years off in the fated trajectory! I don't even know if anybody introduces her to whoever, and it's not specific on the whoever!
I'm not entirely sure either but it would make it a lot less ominous to hear that somebody's fated to something. 'Oh, is she, I'll just go suggest that she not do that then. That might actually work, whereas in the absence of free will somehow it just wouldn't quite.'