Anavett settles back in to monitoring her husband's bannermen and trying to get a good feel of the political situation she's married into. Generally speaking, it's about as well as can be expected, considering the circumstances. Alisander Stark had not been the son they'd expected as heir, and consequently he hadn't been tidily introduced to everyone in advance. He'd been mostly raised away from the North, in the care of Jon Arryn. When he'd first shown up to ask them to march south to avenge their lord and his heir, he must have been nearly a stranger to them. She gets the impression that there'd been a lot of concern about too much southern nonsense leaking in to weaken the north and chip away at its traditions, with a new lord that had spent so much time away, marrying a strange lady who had apparently bewitched his brother into dying to silly southern stupidity. But leading them in battle (Apparently her husband is quite deadly with a blade? Good, maybe that means he won't die.) has seemed to quell any of the major doubts, especially when combined with her plot of marrying in the Godswood. It seems to have solidified his power base nicely, even if many are still very cranky about this whole affair. (As long as he lives. He really, really needs to live.)
The broad strokes of what's going on seem to be, for the most part, fairly legible. Some, like Umber and Glover, are here out of some combination of thirst for glory, boredom after being cooped up all winter, and a fierce and sincere love of Brandon. Others, like Flint and Bolton and Hornwood, seem to have gotten concessions about several things, mostly something to do with hunting. But then there are the strange ones, like Reed and Mormont, here out of what seems to be sheer bloody loyalty. Which is very charming, but she's really not sure what to do with it. Fortunately, she doesn't have to figure it out just yet. She's got a different priority in mind. That is, figuring out White Harbor and its lord. Fortunately for her, Manderly is far too cosmopolitan to think that just letting the south sort itself out will work out fine, and sees the benefits of helping a new lady get settled in up north. One of the benefits of ruling over the largest port in the north is understanding how connected everything really is. He's also probably angling for the future crown to prioritize naval trade with the north, which is fair enough, really, frankly she hopes he gets it.
There is an undercurrent of concern for their homeland, which surprises her, even though it makes sense in retrospect. The recent false spring followed by a brutal resurgence of winter was disruptive to everyone, but it was deadly to the north. An apparent resurgence of spring caused the smallfolk to leave their winter shelters to rebuild roads and reclaim homes and farms less fortified against the cold, and then the frost returned. What an awful tragedy. And no outside help has come, of course, because the crown was too busy going mad and setting lords on fire and whatnot. Damnation, but she hates Targaryen madness. There are very real problems in this unfair world of theirs without inventing new ones. And it's never the ones in power that suffer from the bickering.
Maybe she can pester her father until he sends aid to assist with the reconstruction, probably sold as a way to make up for dragging his damn feet with joining the rebellion and having the gall to demand a double wedding after his life was saved. She's tempted to try and declare her intention to do so now, maybe back him into a corner of looking like a terrible ally, but... no. He might overreact after Lysa's attempt to strong arm him failed so spectacularly. It'll mean less benefit to her husband this way, declaring intentions and then following through is always a good way to display power, but it's ultimately safer. If she fails, it'll make the situation worse, and make her and her husband look weak and ineffective, and, well. She has spent the last several months occasionally screaming at her father behind closed doors. So, realistically speaking, it might not. But he has a soft spot for her, and he does seem to feel some guilt about what he did to Lysa, so... he might want to make it up to her. If it seems like it'll repair his relationship with her, he might give up the resources he has the habit of hoarding like a miser. It won't, of course, that's gone forever (like the grandchild he killed in his daughter's womb, poor Lysa) but she can nonetheless try to play nice and dangle the temptation of reconciliation in front of his nose. It'll be a bit cruel, especially knowing she'll be leaving in a couple of weeks and might never see him again, but, well. Being ice cold does suit a lady of the north. And it'd be something for the poor people that froze, all alone and abandoned by those that had the responsibility to help them. Yes, she can see about doing something about this, and if that makes her a cold hearted bitch, then she's a cold hearted bitch who works for the good of her people. She's just fine with that.
But that's beyond the scope of this dinner, and for now her job is to be pretty, charmingly sharp witted, and clearly invested in the north. She is all of those things, and happy to show them off. They can get to know her too, while they're all together, and hopefully she can leave most of them with a favorable enough impression of her.