"I mean... it's enough that I don't talk to them, and for them to be in my phone as 'shitty parent #1' and 'shitty parent #2', which I realize kind of undermines the thing I'm trying to say here, but" she takes in a breath for emphasis.
"...it wasn't just that they didn't hit me. It was that they loved me, kept track of the things going on in my life, tried to figure out what i needed and helped me get it. stuff that - I hear people say is the bare minimum for acceptable parenting, but - a lot of people don't get that."