He receives petting and scritches because she loves him.

"Got anything on this evening?"

"What do you mean?"

"Are you going to town with Jackson again or anything, or can I bring you back to my room for snuggles and thinking about magic and depending on whether we doze off like that other things?"

"Oh, no, I'm entirely yours to do as you please."

"Hmm?"

"Did you give any thought to the... uh... that idea of... um... kink?"

"...Uh, some. The internet wasn't very helpful, I mean, maybe it would have been if I resorted to actual porn but that's not my thing even without the kink."

"The internet wasn't helpful about kinky stuff? Color me surprised."

"Hey, usually the internet's helpful about everything!"

"No, that wasn't sarcastic, I am actually surprised. Kinky stuff tends to be the internet's m.o."

"I found things but they didn't actually address my basic confusion. I found a blog post with a chart and it had three columns, like, 'here's a subby way to say this, here's a dommy way to say it, here's a nondynamic or neutral way' and like... it must be making a lot of assumptions about tone of voice or something."

"Tone of voice?"

"I could totally say 'that feels good' without breaking presentation. So could a sub! I'm pretty sure the nondynamicism kink is not about that, though, so..."

"Oh, yeah." Pause. "What were the dom and sub ways the website gave of saying that?"

"Oh, I don't remember, probably something like 'keep it up' and 'incoherent moaning'."

"Yeah, that doesn't sound terribly helpful. I'm pretty sure all of those things could be said nondynamically."

"And yet it was completely devoid on information on how to do that, and while I'm not opposed in principle to kinking it up now and then I am strongly opposed to looking like an idiot."

"Ma'am I am so incredibly head over heels for you I think you could be wearing a clown suit with a gibbon on your head and I wouldn't think you look like an idiot."

She kisses him. "And yet. I don't want to feel silly while I'm trying to get laid. It's kind of a moodkiller."

"Yeah that's fair. But, um, what exactly is the underlying confusion?"

"Uh, same blog post that had the chart had a paragraph about how 'practically all your favorite activities are still available with a nondynamic twist!' and I don't know if they just have a really narrow range of favorite activities or what, but I can't think of a nondynamic way for oral sex to work, like, by default if nobody's tied up or anything I read it as a submissive act on the part of the giver? And all the variations that change that reading for me just flip it around."