She's four, and she hates her father.
He's mean and he's evil and he tells her she's evil and he's wrong wrong wrong. He doesn't say she's evil, not really, but he tells her that there are some things that are evil and she's one of those things and he knows this but he says she's not. She never did anything bad. She isn't always a girl! Why is that bad? It doesn't hurt anyone, and so what if she sometimes doesn't want to wear dresses or be called a girl and feels like her body is wrong, that's her problem and she's not hurting anyone, she's just hurting.
He's never hit her, oh no, her mum would leave him if he ever did. But he still hurt her.
Sometimes he loses his temper - almost never, but sometimes - and that's worst, that's when he's meanest and he says horrible things and she's locked herself in a closet and she's not crying you're crying shut up.