Haunted by the possibility of something going wrong and having to explain it to his agent, he does not with the groupies.
He occasionally let's sightly unvarnished opinions slip in public, but in Cascadia "I occasionally do things to annoy Gilead (if only 1/10 of my emails is about me not being saved and being a bad influence to children, I'm not trying hard enough)" and "the nice thing about secret ballots is that they are secret" is basically non-controversial.
The nice thing about living in a city like Portland is there are clubs that have a reputation for discretion. It's not going to last forever, but for now, if one of them is frequented by a woman who looks an awful lot like Jing Yi, no one's saying anything.
He generally avoids the unofficial movies: people get his own life wrong are funny, people getting his friends' and family's life wrong is depressing.
It's not the life he had planned, or even have chosen if he was given the option, but it's good, and he's happy to keep building it.