secondchance
I think you may be overestimating your share of responsibility in the existence of the relationship.
When I had interacted with you enough to conclude that I desperately desired you I could have offered you one of my brothers as a go-between and translator and offered you a place to live not in the palace and then avoided you entirely and been very demanding of Findekáno for a few years. It would have worked fine.
secondchance
I would have been all 'wait, what, why am I moving, what happened, is there some reason we suddenly cannot communicate in person'.
secondchance
If you regret it you could always dump me and bustle me out of the palace.