...people who know, or have guessed, or are wondering, are going to be constantly looking for a way to determine which of us has the advantage of the other, it's this absurdly unshakeable assumption. It used to amuse me but now if we're going to be in contact again I need to make sure his people think it's him and my people think it's me and I actually don't find it amusing at all at this point, just exasperating.
It did not occur to me to worry that I'd feel complicated emotions. I do not think that's particularly likely. It's not really him and this is a delightfully interesting problem. If he thinks it'd be unhealthy for him he should not come.
Has the adv-? Okay, for one thing I'm not sure how public it is, he talks to me about you a lot but I'm the one who can relay messages, I think he may well just look vaguely maudlin to everyone else, and for another is that what I think it is.
Would your families seriously work themselves into a tizzy over who's on top. That's not their business! That's not anyone's business unless you're attending an orgy and even in those it's not customary to dwell on it as though it has great cosmic significance!
At home even folks who recreationally pretend there are power dynamics involved in their sex and/or relationships because it makes their weekends more interesting don't rigidly adhere to an assumption about what acts that implies. Not as a group, anyway.
And more importantly and entirely independent of my personal life, which would be far, far worse than trying to eat to try to take up again anyway, I need everyone inclined to figure out whether Findekáno and I are manipulating each other for political advantage to come to three or four different conclusions about the answer to that question, depending who they are and what they know, and this is complicated anyway and way more complicated if he's already burned through political capital by making it clear he's very sad about me.
No comment on his personal life except that ugh that's so sad.
I am such a fan of song spells. I wonder how many more there are scattered around that people will let me have.
Macalaurë has more than that, including some that might be useful. My guess is that he hesitated to list them because he mostly used them for throwing wild parties that lasted a week, in Aman, and now he's my father's heir and trying not to have a reputation for throwing wild parties that last a week.
Do I need to tell him how disreputable I am, will that help?
In a useful way? I like my brain how it works all by itself; I have fewer concerns about anything non-mind-altering.
Any drawbacks to, 'hey, Macalaurë, in case you got the wrong impression from the fact that I avoid drinking when I can get away with it, I thought you should know that I have completely lost count of how many people I've slept with of either gender'? I'm just not sure how to present this information if it doesn't come up in conversation; he's never ambiguously had a boyfriend at me to make it salient.