NTA. But go to therapy.

Man I'm probably using this sub wrong because I always start my answers with "idk if you're the asshole but..." but...

I think that intellectually knowing someone was not morally responsible for something horrifying they did while under awful circumstances they couldn't control isn't always enough to not feel horrified at them.  But I think that also means that if you know someone wasn't morally responsible for something, but still feel horrified at them, that doesn't necessarily mean that feeling can't go away if you don't want it to.  I don't think you're morally obligated to take on that work, and it may be that not trying isn't what's best for you, and if so I would support you in that even if I think it's sad - it sounds like you also think it's sad.  But if you want there to be hope, and if you think it would be right for you to take on hard emotional work to create it, I wouldn't say you were doomed to fail, just because of how things are now.

So "NTA but maybe go to therapy" is I guess kinda also where I'm at.  ^^;

It’s not exactly your fault, but you need to learn carpentry.  Once you have studied carpentry, come to a stream.  Once you are at the stream, build a bridge.  When the bridge is built, get the fuck over it.

This esper is going to go through Hell over and over throughout their entire life.

You had to deal with an angry friend once.

Consider learning how to sketch.  In order to master sketching, you must learn perspective.  I think getting perspective would be a GREAT step to take here.

Hmm I think you're not an asshole for not being able to be friends with them, but you're a little bit an asshole for saying that. Just, like, make excuses not to hang out for a bit, you didn't need to do a whole dramatic break-up over it. And maybe over time you would have gotten used to it, too.

...also I hope you apologized for the nasty things you say you said.

Hmm I think you're not an asshole for not being able to be friends with them, but you're a little bit an asshole for saying that. Just, like, make excuses not to hang out for a bit, you didn't need to do a whole dramatic break-up over it. And maybe over time you would have gotten used to it, too.

Man, I'm imagining being in the spot of the friend, here, and honestly I feel that would be worse. I bet they'd suspect it was about the awakening anyway, they just wouldn't be able to talk with OP about it even as much as they have. And they'd never know for sure it wasn't actually them, compos mentis, who'd something before. Obviously OP knows them better, and what would be worse for them in particular, but… uh

YTA. Would you drop a depressed friend for attempting suicide? A friend with ADHD for showing up late for a hangout? A friend with Tourette's for having tics? Ableism is still ableism when it's directed at espers.

NAH, probably. It wasn't your friend's fault they had a hell week, but it's also not your fault it sucked really bad for you too.