"Okay, so, New York is the most powerful English-language enclave in the world. First off, this means that they are extremely unlikely to get eaten even if you're not around. Secondly--every independent here wants to join an enclave. Given their choice, every independent who's affiliated more with the Anglosphere than the Sinosphere would pick New York. This means that if they let everyone interact with them as much as they want, none of the New Yorkers are going to have time to do anything else. So they filter pretty hard, mostly, and everyone knows that, and so inviting yourself along would have come off as pushy and rude. Also, uh, you give off maleficer vibes, and probably the senior was not happy about that, because if a maleficer is being pushy and rude that's a lot more dangerous than if a normal indie is being pushy and rude."