In a little house in a little suburb a man and his sub are having chicken and mushrooms in cream sauce for dinner. The latter is kneeling, mouth open to receive forkfuls.
She smiles a little. "I mentioned seals, right?" She taps one of the scrolls on her belt. "I can store a lot in one of these."
"A little bit wouldn't go amiss - my food stores are all rations," she says with a little smile. "Edible and filling, but not very tasty."
She thanks them again, glancing around for a place for her to sit and eat - she can easily eat standing, but civilians find that weird sometimes.
She takes that, then, mentally musing over just - all the questions she has. She knows just enough about civilians to not find them less strange than space aliens, but... She's only pretty sure the sort of relationship she's seeing is uncommon among her nation's people.
"I'm curious if there's other cultural differences than just a divergence in magic types..." she says after a few bites.
She hums. "Possibly overall."
"There's also - your relationship seems a bit strange to me, though I admit I'm not very familiar with the private lives of most civilians..."
" - Oh, most of our relationships aren't that structured," she says, eyes brightening a bit. "Or - are more fluid than that. Civilians tend to have more fixed roles in their lives, though, as far as I know, and to be significantly more monogamous."
"Hm... Set roles of dom and sub in a - romantic context or a gendered context."
"Arguably, one spouse will be consistently submissive to another in a clan ranking context, if one is from a lower ranked clan or if one is from an internally high ranked branch of the clan, but that's mostly in traditionalist families or formal situations and doesn't just impact romantic relationships, except as far as you can assume spouses aren't trying to insult each other."
"I'm not from one of the clans, so no one would expect any of my relationships to have a dom and sub structure like that - unless I married into a clan, I suppose, but if I was just dating a clan member they wouldn't expect me to follow their rules unless they were very traditionalist."
"If two people are the same rank, dom and sub dynamics are pretty common and fun to play with, but... You wouldn't self describe as one or the other, generally?"
"Most people do both, or you could seek out someone at a different rank than you and figure they'd be doing the same thing in the other direction if you didn't like using match makers or speed dating or anything."
"In my culture, at least; the other classes all seem to do relationships a bit differently from each other."
She shrugs. "There's matchmakers. I've never used one, but I'm young enough it'd be a bit weird if I did."
"...I'm not sure. Find a way to support myself, find out what from this world would be useful but not dangerous to import to mine, try to reinvent interdimensional travel?"
She snorts. "Depends on if job agencies are the only possibility."
She nods. "Does anyone do like... Networking? Knowing people who have similar jobs."
"But I should also be able to just explain my abilities to an agency, or demonstrate some..."