"- so in general there are - two sets of norms for a society? One is that you heavily discourage premarital sex, and don't permit divorce except under exceptional circumstances, and expect everyone to follow a lot of rules, about their conduct, and to take their obligations very seriously, and then their lives will be hard and maybe short on freedom and poetry and romance but all children will be born to a mother who can take care of them and a father who can provide for them and almost everybody will make Axis. And in Axis no one can get pregnant and there are accordingly no restrictions it'd be sensible to impose on people, on the basis of the form they've carried over from their past life, and they can have all the poetry in the world, then.
And the other possible set of norms is that you sort of gently discourage premarital sex but not enough that the more irresponsible half of people don't do it anyway, and they get pregnant with children they're not prepared to take care of, and kill them and go to Hell for it or do their best with them and raise them in desperate poverty, and no one takes marriage all that seriously so half the time even if a woman does wait she ends up with a man who walks out, a few years down the line, if he feels like it, and it's rare to make Axis.
It's not impossible to do anything in between but I think it might be impossible to sit patiently somewhere in between. Walls that you don't reinforce erode and there are a lot of complicated social expectations holding up all the walls in a place like this.
And in general I think there's - a lot of room for women's liberation efforts within Osirion's set of norms. More support for widows, better guidance for men about how to be good husbands, better healing for childbirth, more women's religious groups, more theology on the role of women - those all seem like good things to me. But - but when this topic comes up often it comes up with people who just think we should be like Avistan and I mostly do not think we should."