Well, I'm not. Gender is confusing and more trouble than it's worth. Bael Turath had strict gender roles for the upper classes, a son would have been most advantageous. A daughter would have been acceptable, especially if he could have more kids, but... I was useless to him, politically. And otherwise.
I left, of course, when I was around twenty. Stayed in the city for a while, living on my own. Stealing, mostly, to survive. He didn't bother looking for me, but eventually someone did. A mage found me, told me that my sister sent him. I didn't know that I had a sister, but I went with him anyway, I thought he was probably loaded with magic items and I could just take them when he slept. We left the city, got on a boat, and. Well.
There was a war. It had been going on for about ten years by then and by all accounts Bael Turath was winning. The giants were pretty much wiped out, the empire was gobbling up Kalziran territory, the Jade Dragon Empire was sitting things out counting on an ocean to keep them safe. Or, it looked that way. There was apparently a big research project to develop something - a spell, an artifact, who knows, the details never got out - something to end the war in one fell swoop. Bael Turath must have caught on at some point, because they got desperate. They started summoning a demon army to end the war faster and. It got loose. Demons are temperamentally similar to your Enemy when free, and, suddenly, they were everywhere. Nobody was prepared for it. People in isolated areas survived, people in small towns were torn to shreds or eaten alive or burned to death or -
To the best of my knowledge, the populations of the Turathi cities are still, technically, alive.