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What makes somebody's reasons good?

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Like, the Valar don't count because they're wrong about lots of stuff. If someone's usually not wrong that counts more. If they actually know things about what I did and why that counts more. The more they think they understand me and are wrong the better - like, Butterfly hating him for a thing he didn't do would be better than if she knew the truth and just mildly disliked him - 

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So it's a lot safer, if people don't know what he actually did, because even if finding out made them more favorably disposed, if it didn't get them all the way to not being upset over it...

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Then he'd have agreed their opinion matters and it would be bad and everything would be horrible.

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Squeeze. That sounds really unpleasant.

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Yeah.

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What happens when people whose opinions matter disagree?

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If anyone whose opinion matters thinks I'm bad then I'm bad.

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How come it's that way around and not the other way?

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Thinking I'm bad is just more sticky than thinking I'm good. And more reliable - people might say they think I'm good even if they don't, just to be nice, or they might be biased because they love me...

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Couldn't people do things just to be mean or be biased because they resent you personally about things that make sense more objectively?

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I wouldn't care about that sort of person's opinion.

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I guess that makes sense if you're sure you can identify them.

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It's mostly just you and Rúmil and I think for the other ones Nerdanel and the children. 

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Squeeze. Is that why you wanted to tell me what happened in Cube?

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Yeah. You don't blame me for things the other ones do the same way because I'm littler but it matters.

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Squeeze.

I wish I knew how to teach you to cope better with people having opinions. Not caring what they think at all or having it be a permanent disaster if they're annoyed is pretty extreme.

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Yeah, I know.

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Snuggle. Maybe you'll figure something out.

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Or I'll just be so good everyone likes me.

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You could also try that, but it's... not a robust strategy.

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I suppose it's really not. 

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Yup. Hence why I wish I knew how to suggest something else that you could implement.

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Hug. 

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Snuggle. I love you.

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