"Yes. I... haven't heard very many people seriously thinking about, well, what the Cetagandans were thinking. I think."
"Some of them may have had more complex thought processes, but I guarantee a lot of them thought let's go conquer that technologically backward planet and we'll be home in time for lunch and the Emperor will give us the Order of Merit and a haut-wife apiece."
She giggles slightly. "Oh, dear. One is almost tempted to feel sorry for them. If it weren't for - the details of what they wre trying to do."
"I'm not particularly tempted. I'm reasonably sure that the same ghem-generals who didn't give a second thought to how the Barrayarans would feel about the matter also didn't spare a moment to wonder if their prospective wives were going to be willing participants."
"Well - yes. I just have an instinctive sympathy for people who make poor decisions thinking they will be rewarded, and get the opposite."
"Hmm - I have some sympathy for stupidity but less for thoughtlessness."
"Although it's possible I'd have less sympathy for stupidity if I had to endure more of it in close quarters than I've historically had to."
"Some. Arbitrarily intelligent people can decide that they don't care."
"Well, for a ready-to-hand example - whether I wanted to conform to the standard laid out for me in its every particular."
"I managed - obviously - but a more thoughtful setup might have some release valve for malcontents besides allowing a small fraction of one sex to occasionally get married and thereby leave behind anything we might have actually liked about our initial situation all in one motion."
"Yes. It seems like... any amount of thought could have improved the situation. The definition of thoughtlessness, I suppose."
"If I'd been allowed to do that, I would probably have waited until I was a little older - no sense turning down the education and resources before I needed to trade them in for freedom of movement if the possibility would still be waiting for me when I was twenty-three or what have you. And then I'd have sold pens or opened a commercial genomics consultation clinic on Illyrica or performed music for audiences larger than whichever fifty haut were invited to this or that party. Or all of the above and then some. Without having to marry someone who - I've been very lucky, I love my husband, but I didn't exactly know Miles well when I seized on the idea of running off with him."
"Hmm," says Ekaterin. "Not a solution I ever would have imagined, and I can't help thinking there would be trouble if someone tried it... but maybe it would be better for everyone if they had designed it that way from the start. Since the Cetagandans seem to design everything anyway."
"Yes. Unfortunately, 'let's design the haut to like being haut in exactly the way we have arranged for being haut to be' is a strategy with a non-negligible failure rate."
"Not quite. Although there have been amazing strides made, complex psychological targets keep having side effects and confounding factors. I am technically a psychological design experiment."
"...Um? What were you - if it's not a rude question - what were you... for?"