The good cop/bad cop routine except it's for comforting people.

Manic pixie dream enby. Maybe if they are really, really nice now, it will make up for when one of these days they inevitably go apeshit?

Of course they are going down too, what did you think?

There is that one online quiz I do for characters, and one of the results is that your defining quality is an internal- rather than external-based self-image. The Delinquent always gets that result. I have a sneaking suspicion that's because her self-image is so external-based she won't admit it even to an online quiz.

A rebel, independently of the number of good causes available in the setting.

Bit the bullet on "you wouldn't hold other people to the same standards you're trying to hold yourself to".