"You're family so we wouldn't have to war with you if you absconded with them - though please don't, we need them to win the war."

"I am married to an alternate universe version of your brother, it is not obvious that counts!"

He glances at Timothy. " - no, you're family, it's - obvious. To me."

"...okay, what about Karen - she isn't going to steal them either, but -"

"Karen and I are dating but not married."

"And I expect if I say 'oh, don't marry in wartime' you will just make faces? I suppose if Karen absconds with the Silmarils then we would have a problem."

"That one I do not in fact understand the logic."

"For swearing to make it a really bad idea to steal the Silmarils, or why marriage makes you relevantly family but dating does not?"

"No, for not marrying in wartime. I get why no kids."

"Fairly likely to end up widowed, and as things presently stand that means separated forever."

"...does it... usually... not mean that?"

"Usually the Valar would reembody the dead. They've put us on notice they won't reembody any of us for a very long time, because they're angry about Alqualondë."

"...we don't have such a courtesy available in the first place."

"That seems like all the more reason not to wed in wartime, though I suppose if you're dead soon anyway..."

"I mean, under the circumstances I'm not thinking 'I wish I'd held out for springtime so I could right now be not-married'."

"But if he dies?"

"...that... would... be bad? It would not be lots less bad if we weren't married yet."

Elves look at each other confusedly. 

"....what?"

"There's some kind of confusion. I am not sure it really matters, though, as long as you're happy."

"The last species difference turned out to matter."

"This one seems to just be that you find being widowed less bad than we do."

"I mean, the problem if Minor dies is that then he would be dead. In what way does widowing me rate, especially compared to him dying while we were engaged."

"Oh, you mean that even if he died when you were engaged you wouldn't ever want anyone else?"

"Uh, that is not what I mean. See this is what I mean about species differences - do you not have half-cousins, do Quendi not -"