And Evelyn will shut herself in the study and stare at an empty text document.
...Where does she even start? There were so many things today. It feels like the longest day of her entire life. And, not to mention, there are a lot of things she feels...less than entirely comfortable...about relating to Diel, given the attitude displayed before.
Okay. Focus. She wants to be quick about this and get to bed, so - start at the beginning, and go through in order, and if her notes are less meticulously thorough than usual for early in a placement, it's not like Diel will notice she is not going to be deliberately lazy. Just. Apply some judgement to how she phrases things, is all. That's a completely normal thing to do.
Iomedae was up early with my other foster child (Lily, 7yo girl, learning disability and suspected abuse) and had a conversation that resulted in the two of them cleaning the kitchen before I was awake, as a "surprise" and for Lily to make up for breaking some of my things. I didn't punish either of them, since Lily assumed it was okay to open the cleaning supplies cupboard with a big girl there and Iomedae had no way of knowing otherwise; I explained that cleaning is my job, and then asked Iomedae privately what she had said to Lily. It wasn't terribly inappropriate, but I made sure she knew that it would be inappropriate to talk to Lily about Hell.
Iomedae continues to learn English very diligently; I found her some worksheets and videos. She accompanied us on errands to Costco and Walmart, and seemed to be very impressed, describing it as "man building Heaven in the world". She continues to seem intensely guilty about spending money on herself rather than helping the poor, though I've tried to reassure her that this is a perfectly normal amount to spend on food and clothing in America and not especially extravagant. Iomedae prefers to dress modestly and avoid bright colors, and I've also noticed that she had some anxiety around meeting my adult son; she may have been taught to be cautious about socializing with unrelated men. My son handled it sensitively and there were no real issues.
Iomedae continues to be distressed that she isn't allowed to work and earn money, and that she isn't allowed to carry a sword when she leaves the house. She is clearly used to being treated as an adult with adult responsibilities. I've tried to explain that a suburb in Reno is much safer than what she's used to, but I think she was alarmed that Lily isn't allowed to walk places alone, I suspect that in her culture children were supervised less and given more freedom. Iomedae continues to admit openly that she's considering leaving (in particular, going somewhere where it's not illegal to work without papers, which she seems very confident is a thing), though I don't think she sees it as running away, since in her worldview she's an adult. I've tried to approach it as sensitively as I can, and emphasize how going to school and learning more about America will make it easier for her to help the poor.
I did ask Iomedae some questions about the details of her religion. It may be some kind of polytheistic blend with Christianity; she mentioned praying to a number of other "gods" (the word she used, though the specifics sounded like she could be talking about Catholic saints). She said her family would pray to an "Erastil" for the harvest, and "Dezna" for safe travel, and an "Abadar" for prosperity, and a "Shelynne" for love or "Jaydee" for a husband; I'm obviously guessing at the spellings here. Her family also called Jesus by a different name, "Aroden". I've tried some Google searches for different spellings of the names, searching for both saints and figures from other cultures' mythology, and haven't turned up anything, so I'm not sure what to make of it. Some of what she says about Jesus/"Aroden" is also pretty unusual. The most notable to me is that she said Jesus/"Aroden" wants everyone to become a god and help defeat Hell, which is certainly not a Biblical interpretation I've ever heard before. She has very black-and-white views on churches and on priests, claiming that God personally chooses priests and they can never be bad people. She also definitely believes in miraculous healing.
It's definitely leaving a lot of things out, but Evelyn honestly cannot be bothered to rake over her memory any further. Usually the process of writing up notes is sort of steadying, helping her sort through the events of an overwhelming day and leaving her feeling less confused and off-balance. Evelyn...isn't sure that's true, this time. She's getting to know Iomedae, for sure, accumulating a longer list of Iomedae's traits and preferences and reactions to situations, but on some level she's even more confused.
- not helpful to sit here beating herself up over not being able to instantly figure out what Iomedae needs to relax and feel safe and happy here. Evelyn has to trust herself, and more important has to go to BED so she'll be rested for tomorrow, which promises to be just as intense.
She goes to bed.