There are patterns you can lean on in the courts but any one of them might give way if another one pulled on it hard enough. You're not responsible for what you do as a child, maybe unless it was really fucked up and you obviously knew what you were doing, and if you're an adult who definitely didn't know what you were doing maybe that grace extends, if you want to call it grace to wind up in the Boneyard, by stipulation clueless, and be buffeted by whatever outsiders are parking there with their sales pitches today. It's evil to hurt people, unless they deserved it, as long as that's why you did it, probably, and defending the innocent is actively good, unless the innocent is you in which case it's just neutral maybe, and of course you can't go too far, and you're responsible for what you do under whatever ludicrously fucked-up circumstances your life cooked you into, but less if you were coerced, but really everyone always has a choice, but it's just as culpable to bend the knee to the threat of death when you know you read Evil as it is when you know you read Good, so self-defense is not actually all that good of a defense, so to speak. And you have to feed the kids but you can't steal, at least not from anyone who needs it, and definitely it's worse if you're taking any chances on it turning violent for all that starvation hurts as bad as a stab wound, and any passing prick with at least one functioning testicle can make it evil to go about the rest of your life how you'd planned it instead of as a disgraced mother, it might even be evil to kill him for trying just in case you misunderstood something or he did, and it's evil for him too, maybe, unless he was too drunk to be responsible for his actions, but actually maybe a bit less if he can avoid knowing what he's done to you and drops a bit of gold on a worthy charity later, even if he gets scammed or the charity fails in all its endeavors, because that's the kind of risk that's all right to take but if you do something really reckless then you're going to pay for everyone who was counting on you to succeed. And you can rely on the righteous gods, for faith is a virtue, and when they fail you and you have nothing left to go on with, it's your own fault; you should have been made of stronger stuff, though asking Pharasma to go back in time and build you better has never worked, not even once.