Crafters have a very strong default stance of just leaving each other alone, yeah, it works well for them. For specific scenarios -

Children get to chose how they spend time with their parents from a very young age and usually only one or the other is breastfeeding, before that, so it'd be obvious who should take them; she could see an elder ever having to sort out a situation with a child who was weaned but too young to express an opinion, but that's a pretty narrow window when it happens at all. (Sun's species might start communicating later? Crafters' communication starts early, around the time babies start to walk - around the first anniversary of the birth, if that varies too. And breastfeeding well into the second year isn't rare.)

Crafters don't have intellectual property at all; copying someone's personal aesthetic in a rude way is close and would be kind of a dick move but generally accurate to treat the same way as a destructive expression of anger, unless they were, say, doing it to get the person into trouble with a third party, which would edge into being serious intentional harm to both of them, depending on the details.

Crafting does very good soundproofing and airtight containers, which makes it easy to avoid inflicting those kinds of nuisances on neighbors. It does ever happen that someone doesn't realize they're causing a problem, but that's easily solved by telling them; on the other hand it is the sort of thing that'd interfere with neighbors' territory claims if talking didn't solve it, so that would get taken very seriously, but it really doesn't happen.

Amentans start saying a few words at roughly the same age but don't usually have very clear consistent opinions till later on, and also Amentans have baby formula for people who aren't able to nurse their babies, so that's less of a factor for them. Can lone sassafras go into more detail on how destructive expressions of anger play out?

It really depends on the situation - the basic pattern is just someone getting too frustrated or otherwise emotional and doing something unwise, and which unwise things look satisfying to do depends on what they're frustrated about and what they're like as a person. Plenty of things in that category aren't particularly destructive - say, storming off - or don't damage anything belonging to anyone else - one of her siblings liked to break sticks into little pieces when they were angry - but under enough stress they'll sometimes take it out on someone else, for example by insulting someone; that's not very serious, but it's a clear sign that they need to deal with the underlying problem, whatever it is.

As another example, the thing during the last visit where she told Sun outright that her species should not go into crafters' territory would be taken as a destructive expression of anger if she did it to another crafter, and only not as intentional harm because not going into peoples' territories uninvited is such a fundamental thing; as a rule they don't order each other around unless they're under some sort of fairly extreme duress, and it does cause some harm for a crafter to be on the receiving end of something like that. It seemed necessary to get the point across, though, and it's clear that Sun's species isn't like hers in that way.

Sun wasn't offended! What would have happened to a crafter who was ordered like that?

For that specific thing they'd most likely just be very confused and worried about her, it'd be a very weird thing to say in an intra-species context. More broadly, there are two things going on with orders: one is that they're a territory claim thing, and the other is that they're a very rude way of expressing something. Orders that are about how to act in someone's territory or with their belongings and that don't compel action only have the problem of being rude; the polite way to do it is to just mention that you prefer something, possibly with an explanation of why - that works, it's a species trait of crafters that it does, and implying it wouldn't can be a pretty serious insult, it's essentially saying that the ordered person is incompetent as a crafter. And then orders that try to compel action are a territory-claim on the person being ordered, and get about the same sort of reaction as unwanted touch.

Huh. How much does lone sassafras know about other crafter cultures elsewhere in the world?

Not very much directly, but nomadic crafters sometimes come from very far away and she's never known them to have trouble getting along on that level.

What things are different about them?

Sometimes they have different ideas about how close people should be able to freely come to their houses; sometimes they set up explicitly-temporary territory markers; sometimes they have different ideas about where to settle relative to other community members or how long it makes sense to stay; sometimes they want explicit permission from an elder to settle near the community, or from the nearest few households; sometimes they have different ideas about hunting or fishing or gathering feedstock on unclaimed land, and either upset someone by taking too much or confuse people a bit by wanting to trade for it.

How does trade play out (in this region)?

Among the community people would often already have an idea of who would have whatever they wanted to trade for, or if they didn't they could ask the crows for help or put the question on the network. Once they knew who to talk to they'd do that either over the network or by setting up an in-person meeting - crows can pass messages like that, or they can leave letters at each others' territory-markers - and from there it's just a matter of working out the details. With nomads, people will wander by to see what they have after they've had a few days to settle in, or they'll work out where the socialization grounds are and bring their things for people to see, or they'll leave letters with the community members they've settled nearest to asking them to send the right sort of people to talk to them.

For the trades themselves, crafters don't use money, but crafting-material is a partial substitute; it's not very valuable, since most people have no trouble making enough for their needs, but also everyone has some use for it and it can be stored easily and traded along in the future, so it's a reasonable fallback if someone doesn't have anything better. Livestock is another common option, but it's not as guaranteed that someone will be interested in it. It's also rarely really necessary to trade; most people with special skills pick them up because they want to use them, and won't need any extra incentive to help their neighbors out.

They don't get bored of doing those tasks, or have trouble prioritizing among many interested neighbors?

Sometimes, yes, but most things people trade for aren't necessary in the first place, so that's inconvenient but not disastrous. If it is a disaster then not wanting to doesn't matter so much - she was very, very busy making sure all her neighbors had good walking-houses not so long ago, but it needed to be done and she doesn't begrudge them any of it.

Sun would like to apologize on her species' behalf for scaring people.

She appreciates that.

Is there any sort of compensatory gift that would be culturally appropriate here?

It's a situation of accidental harm, she just explained about how those are resolved. She's not super in the mood for it right this minute though.

Well, when Amentans wind up talking to any of the affected crafters Sun hopes they will take note of her recommendation about the correct apologetic construction.

She's very skeptical that that'll ever happen; it would be meaningful for her to pass such a message along, though.

Okay. Whenever's convenient for her.

Shrug: whenever.

It's important that it be good (accurate, sincere, complete), not just timely, though.

Would lone sassafras be willing to workshop apology wordings once the blues have something written up?

That's reasonable, yeah.

(One of her dogs that's been wandering around the campsite comes over and whines at her; she lets him into the walker, and he deposits his front half in her lap for her to pet.)

One of the greys remarks that his daughter wants a local puppy, are they particularly hard to take care of?

It's important to train them and she doesn't know how they'd do that without being able to communicate with them; otherwise no, they're quite thoroughly domesticated.