He pauses to get his thoughts together.
"Alright, so..."
"Mothers shape their children before they're even born. You're born owned by your mother, so she has all your magic. If she raises you, she shapes your thoughts, and she gives you commands, and if you are an obedient child then she owns you more, and if you are an unruly child who obeys anyways, she owns you more but not as much as if you were obedient, and if you disobey she doesn't own you more and might own you less. If you disobey, she can just hit you, and that establishes a claim even if you resist, which more than cancels out the loss of ownership from you disobeying. If you hit her, that establishes a claim on her, which works to cancel out some of her claim on you since she owns you anyways. If you run away, you're still owned by her, but if you first steal a bunch of her things, and then run away, you'll be owned by her less."
"If you run away, and steal her things, and she doesn't oppose this or try to get you back, then the ownership becomes very tenuous. If you kill her, the ownership sort of - switches directions, so you don't get backlash from whoever owns you dying, but you're then owned by whoever owned her originally, since they owned you indirectly earlier. If she wasn't owned by anyone, you now own yourself, and need to exercise self control. If someone else kills her, then you might get backlash from her dying."
"If you don't kill her - most people don't kill their parents, even if they dislike being owned - then you can go to whoever owns her, or whoever owns whoever owns her, or so on, and appeal to be moved more directly into their ownership. They'll probably demand you give them everything you own, or obey a long list of petty commands, or else submit to torture - or, well, general 'having sensations inflicted on you,' they don't have to be pain, but negative ones are stronger - and they'll then evaluate if this transferred ownership, and keep escalating if it didn't, until your mother loses her ownership claim."
"If you don't like anyone in your mother's ownership chain, you can try to flee even farther and find someone - probably a foreign Overlord - who'll accept you. Breaking you entirely out of your current ownership chain is harder than moving you around within one, and would probably involve a lot of general submission for a while. But your new Overlord also gets a small ownership claim on your mother and everyone up the ownership chain from her, including her Overlord, since they stole you. If they make a habit of stealing people from your original Overlord, your original Overlord will probably declare war on them - they could just let it happen, but then they'll become a vassal."
"If you want to own yourself, you have to get rid of all ownership claims on you. The - typical - way to do that is lots of murder. Then you'll have no one funneling your magic, and you'll promptly explode if you have poor self control or no other magic being funneled into you. People who become self-owning usually do so by killing their Overlord, which if they do it right gives them ownership of everything the Overlord owned."