It's not quite that detailed, usually, and less so for decisions that are more novel or less constrained. And - there's maybe a slight mismatch in their intuitions about how much the compulsions are something to be careful about, which he's correcting for now. Leareth is being very careful not to use magic in some way Maitimo wouldn't like, and it is very sweet of him. Maitimo is mostly ...not thinking of that carefulness as one of the interesting tools to get things he wants and not things he doesn't want. It's too -
- oh, here's a concept that feels relevant. When you are new at getting things you want, you have to ask for them, and that's often taken as rude. And then you get better at asking for them, and manage to ask in a way that's mostly graceful. And then eventually you get good at engineering the situation so you never even ask. And for everything that is very very important to Maitimo, he does that, has for a long time. It would be terrifying to be in a position where you had to ask for food, even if you were sure to be granted it, because you'd be imposing, even if just a little bit, you'd be spending social capital, and anything you actually need you ought to be in a position to get without spending social capital -
- there are exceptions here, he's gesturing at a general principle but obviously emergencies happen and wars happen and you should often have higher priorities than not asking for things, and you'd better be fluent in asking so that when you do need to you spend only very little -
- but it fundamentally did not occur to him to rely in any sense on asking Leareth for things, or on Leareth asking him for things, except in the context of clarifications about factual confusions or something. Obviously the thing he would do - is doing - is arranging circumstances where all of the things Leareth might do, given who Leareth is as a person, are fine. This sounds like a lot of work but it's not; picking Leareth to fall in love with instead of some other person did most of it.