Llessenia Vilaró is one of the few attendees of the Duchess de Chelam's Starday dinner party who is not personally titled, an elected delegate, or looking to set up any kind of marriage match with any of her children. Even her eldest son, the one to whom the Archduke Xavier Armand Requena i Cortes de Sirmium granted a county, is in her opinion a bit too green to be trusted to pick out a bride just yet. He's only 19. 19 is an age when young men make very stupid decisions about things, and wives are rather an important one. So: not just yet, actually. For now, his younger (surviving) brother at 15 is his heir, and frankly by Cheliax's current standards of nobility, that's downright secure for a family keeping a title. Llessenia could theoretically have brought her daughter with her to see about setting up a match, but a 12 year old is really just going to make everyone incredibly uncomfortable, and this isn't Taldor.
Her son isn't attending the convention (though if his liege lord needs an extra vote, there are funds set aside for his quick retrieval by Teleport), and so she doesn't actually have any direct power over the proceedings. Instead she's here as an advisor to her Archduke. She mingled a little at the party, but mostly she was there in her capacity to make observations and form opinions.
Now, after the party is over and they are in private, it is the time for her to share some of them. Well, after hearing her lord's, anyway. He's the one making the ultimate decisions here.
"Any thoughts on your match, my lord?" Because matchmaking was very obviously the real purpose of that party, and anyone with eyes and a scrap of political sense was aware of that going in. So, everyone except the paladin. (Poor man.)