"I'd be inclined to think less of someone who'd complain but sympathetic to someone who wouldn't complain but would still be vaguely bothered? I guess?"

"He'd have more grounds for it now that I know. But the opinion of a guy I don't remember at all is not the most motivating possible thing."

Nod. "I assume I was right to tell you that I recognized her name?"

"Why wouldn't you have been?"

"There are people who wouldn't want to know that they were married to someone they've never heard of! You just don't seem the type."

"I have, just barely, heard of him!"

"And he's up to very admirable things!"

"Which I suppose is better than having been married to nobody special."

"Good taste in spouses and good life ambitions, it's nice but it really doesn't add up to knowing the guy."

"It doesn't." Sigh.

Aitim takes extra shifts and sends his boyfriend's husband-in-a-past-life more donation money.

Form letter.

He's not doing it for the form letters but he does save it for Kib.

Kib looks at the signature. Files it away.

"If I wind up remembering monogamy I should probably not run on guesses about your feelings on that," he tells Aitim later.

" - if you remember something you want you should go and get it. I will be very sad, of course, but a happy marriage is a very valuable thing."

"...In the department of 'things I would previously have identified as about as likely as my being the reincarnated inventor of storks', what's the arrangement liable to be if your husband is eventually accessible?"

"We were monogamous before but he would definitely not want me to break off an existing happy relationship. I think you'd get along with him, which helps."

Snort. "How much would you have to bother my erstwhile husband to find out if you think I'd get along with him?"

" - lunch would probably do it? Mind, I don't know if he'd agree to get lunch, those form letters are suggestive of 'busy and not social'."

"You've sent him a bunch of money."

"I have. Should I leverage my donor status to get a lunch with your husband and a guess about how well you'd like him?"

"You don't have to."

"Well, you know how much I hate talking to people." Kiss. "I'll write him."

"Thanks. I love you."

"Love you."

He writes Aydanci. He will be in Lapis this week and would be delighted to have the chance to meet him in person and discuss his programs.