I am sworn to be undeterrable from retrieving the Silmarils, because they are the only way my people can exist at all outside Valinor. I don't have to kill anyone who touches them, or even anyone who steals them and withholds them from us, if I can instead get them back. I am already powerful enough that oath's going to be a problem, and if I were powerful enough to be able to hold on to them then that oath is much much less of a problem. I regret that oath but don't expect it will make our goals diverge except in highly engineered circumstances, you probably don't want my people to slowly fade into ghosts and lose our capacity to have effects in the physical world.
I didn't light the boats on fire and tried to prevent that from happening. No one who tried to prevent that from happening suffered any punishment for defying our King in that, though one person trying to steal a boat and take it back was trapped when someone lit that boat on fire not knowing it had a stowaway.
I have exactly one mortal vassal; Estolad's a separate kingdom and independently governed and we have a very loose alliance whose only real term is that we'll try to evacuate them with our own civilians if the north falls. One guy decided he really wanted to come work for me, and so he did, and is employed here; you can meet him. I have not seduced any mortals, vassals or not. The Enemy doesn't actually leave his prisoners capable of that, which anyone spreading that rumor should probably have known, we see enough of them. To my knowledge no one under my command has seduced any mortals and they'd face criminal sanction for pursuing someone over whom they had power.
This part of the continent was inhabited only by orcs when we arrived here. I wish we had arrived here sooner. You're welcome to talk to the natives of Beleriand who chose to follow us here and ask them how they feel about things. No one under my command has orders to conceal grievances from outsiders or fears retaliation or is otherwise positioned such that you'd get inaccurate answers by talking to them.