Oct 18, 2019 2:49 AM
Silvers and native Lotus in dreamshaperverse
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"Not-hating is not usually something I'd classify as nice."

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"Yeah. Well. I did say even obvious things."

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"I mean, it's such a low standard that I wouldn't mentally put in the category of nice. I don't hate my grandparents and Jeanne is far from reaching that point."

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"Well, then, I imagine you'll have lots of things at least that nice to say to her."

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"Yeah, the positive side of low standards. Yay."

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"Take 'em where you can get'em," Zahara advises.

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"Fair enough. So, I don't hate her, she has a nice smile and performs poetry really well."

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"Great! Say those things. Repeatedly. It may take a while to get them through her head."

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"Gosh, maybe I will have even wildly better things to say like 'I enjoyed the last 54 minutes of being in your presence'."

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"You say that like you're joking, and yet. 'I like being around you' isn't bad at all. Neither is 'I've enjoyed talking to you' or 'you make me happy' or 'this is pleasant and I will want to do more of it in the future.'"

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"Fair enough."

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"Don't worry too much. You ... you can't mess up too badly. She's not going to stop ... feeling this way about you."

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"My worries are not really about what she thinks about me, not directly at least."

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"I understand. But ... you get as many second chances as you need."

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"I was afraid that she could suffer emotional harm in the process."

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"Jeanne is ... kind of an enormous ball of emotional trauma? It's sort of an inherent characteristic of hers. You are not going to make that significant of a difference."

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"I'm going to focus on the positive side of that for now."

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"Yes, I recommend that approach."

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Nod. "Uh, how much of this I can share with my brothers?"

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"Assuming they can be reasonably tactful about it, all of this is fine."

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"...What is reasonably tactful here?"

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"...refrain from criticizing her mother in front of her? Not react to her doing things by saying 'wow, you really are an enormous ball of emotional trauma'? Not strike up an argument with her about how concerningly low her standards are?"

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"Ah, okay. I think I'm going to wait a few days to tell Trevor... it's the sort of thing he will be better when the person is not new."

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Nod. "He's your brother, I'm sure you know how best to handle it."

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"It's not that he does not care, but I think it's a combination of... caring more when the person is more of a recurring member of his social circle and having formed habits that do not include saying specific things to people. Mind, I'm probably going to wait to tell them both together."

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