Oct 18, 2019 2:23 AM
Silvers and native Lotus in dreamshaperverse
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Helpless giggling. "Do you want to start over, Felix."

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"Yes. Hi, so last night Jeanne came over and we talked."

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"She managed words? Good, that's a good sign."

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"Yeah... not without difficulties though... I felt a bit lost."

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"Yeah. I ... you know this isn't your responsibility, right? You do not have to deal with her. She's, um, not really an easy person."

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"She is unconventional, but I don't think she means any harm and I don't think it's that difficult? I want to help her."

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"She doesn't mean any harm, no. Especially not to you. It is, um, definitely that difficult, but I'm not going to tell you that you can't, even if I had the authority to do that, I love her. ... But, um, while she would definitely accept you -- pity-dating her, or something -- I don't think that would be healthy for either of you."

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"I wasn't considering pity-dating her. I was not even thinking of dating her? Not exactly, at least."

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"Okay. I didn't think you necessarily were, I just -- wanted to make sure you were thinking things through."

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Nod.

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"So. I can try to explain things, if you want -- if there are particular things you feel lost about -- though I can't promise it'll make much more sense."

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"Some... Last night she was trying to convince me to let her stay and I had objections because I live with Arthur and his uncle - Arthur would be fine with it - and it didn't felt right to let her come over without permission and she was very confused about it."

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"Ah. Yes, she ... when you say it didn't feel right? She has a lot of trouble with intuitions like that. If you want to try to explain it to her, you need to -- do you watch Star Trek? Imagine that you're explaining it to Spock. People's homes are emotionally charged for them, so there's an implicit social agreement that one doesn't enter a home without the homeowner's permission. Sometimes this permission can also be given implicitly; by inviting you to live with him, he's also given permission for your friends to visit you in his house, because it's understood that that's something you would want and he wouldn't have invited you if he had a problem with that. But that implicit permission isn't extended to circumstances which he wouldn't reasonably expect; people don't usually visit at night, so you would need to ask him explicitly for permission for that."

She sighs. "It's, um, pretty hard for most people. It's okay if you can't pull it off reliably. You're important to her; you can just tell her that there are fuzzy intuitive reasons and you want her to trust you on that, and she will."

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"It sounds complicated, but that covers most of what left me nervous with the situation."

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"You can refer her to me, too, if she's not getting something, I've kind of gotten the hang of explaining things to her. ... She, um ... isn't always good at sounding harmless, but she essentially is? 'Don't hurt people' is obvious enough for her to get. 'Don't reassure people in graphic detail about all the ways you won't hurt them' is a little trickier."

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"It was mostly worried that she didn't get why she shouldn't do it and would do it anyway. I didn't really think she would hurt anyone directly, but Arthur's uncle would be... justified if he didn't want us to live with them anymore."

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"And that must have been scary for you. I'm sorry. -- I wouldn't put it that way to her, if I were you, if you just say 'please don't' she'll do anything you ask but if you say 'Arthur's uncle wouldn't want us to live with them anymore' she'll go ahead and do it if she thinks she can avoid him finding out. ... And also possibly develop a disproportionate dislike for Arthur's uncle."

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"I will make a note. Maybe reinforce the fact that Arthur's uncle took four people under the age of 18 into his home. Why would she develop that dislike?"

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"Because she thinks you're just about the best person in the universe, and so anyone who would throw you out is clearly just about the worst."

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"Well... that is more than a bit extreme."

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"My sister doesn't really do moderation."

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"Yeah. I'm worried when she gets... a more realistic picture of me."

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"I would not expect Jeanne and reality to be having an encounter anytime in the foreseeable future. ... Or, to put it less flippantly -- it's not that she's missing something, it's that she has a bizarre perspective, finding out more about you isn't going to change anything."

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"Heh, okay then. In general, if I tell her that she not to act on disliking people on my behalf is going to be effective?"

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"--she will try but that is a broad enough request that she will make herself really miserable trying to follow it. ... You have to understand, 'on your behalf' is about a third of her universe, trying to screen that out would be desperately hard."

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